When you heard the word “HEARTACHE’’ did you think about something related to the matters of the heart like a love relationship?
Well, a heartache does not only come from a love relationship gone wrong.
A definition of a heartache from Wikipedia is as follows;
Heartache may refer to: Lovesickness, condition involving romantic obsession or longing. A broken heart or heartbreak, emotions after loss, disappointment or relationship break-up.
The heartache we referring to is a broken heart due to disappointment.
As thriving individuals, we have plans and sometimes those plans don’t go according to plan, and this can cause a heartache which can demotivate you and take you off track.
Three questions to help you get over a HEARTACHE or DISAPPOINTMENT
- Is there anything in your power that you can do? If there isn’t, then you need to stop worrying about something you cannot control.
- Did you die? If you didn’t die, then you are surviving or have survived the situation. Deal with the emotions and find out WHY you are really affected.
- Can you spot any opportunities in this situation? There are always opportunities in bad times, you just need to look at it from a different perspective and re assess the situation.
This must be done sincerely for it to work. You really must have a tough conversation with yourself and be honest with your feelings and why you feel the way you feel.
How I used the 3 questions in a situation I had.
A company I was working for was going through restructuring because they were combining 2 departments. The management structure was going to change, and one person was going to be appointed as the head of our department. The general manager had a one on one with all the managers to inform us of the changes. I was very disappointed about the outcome of the meeting and immediately had a bad day.
I had to ask myself the 3 questions and had a heart to heart with myself and I came to realise that;
- I had no control over the situation, so I had to stop stressing over it.
- No, I did not DIE, but I was angry because my EGO was a little bruised. So, I had to realize that this didn’t mean that my abilities or competency were substandard and I had to get over it.
- Did I see any opportunities in the situation? Yes, because I didn’t have to run a whole department and have my hands full, this gave me a chance to improve my skills in some other area of work that I wanted to focus on initially.
Knowing how to control your emotions can be a life saver as you cannot always control what happens to you, but you can control how it affects you.
Share some the ways that help you get over a disappointment and heartache.
With Love and Light
“ We are all broken, that’s how the light gets in.”